Is Fifty Shades of Grey an Anti-Feminist Text?
My straight away answer is NO. Okay so I am a hard-core feminist but does being a feminist makes you boring in bed? Does it makes you look better if you are a house wife, conforming to all you house hold duties and ignoring your sexual desires? What is wrong with having some fetish? Is BDSM or hard core sex only limited for males? Why can’t women want the same and enjoy it?
Fifty Shades of Grey is a trilogy and those who have read all the three books will know that though initially Anastasia “Ana” Steele, the female protagonist of the story was not comfortable with all the ‘weird’ sex stuff, Mr Grey (the male protagonist) wanted to do to her but in the second and third part, she loved it. She loved to be tied with the silver tie, she loved moaning and she loved all the spanking and having sex in all the non-romantic settings.
Mr Grey did warn her in advance what he wanted from her and what kind of sexual relationship they would be sharing. Ana knew it all and still went on with it because she was ready to experiment, she wanted something new, breaking her off from her monotonous existence and giving herself a new identity. If you look at it as a sex slave then surely it is very demeaning but the truth is they both enjoyed it, Ana as the submissive and Grey as the dominant. Grey wanted to be with her even if it meant letting her touch him, gossip, sleeping on the same bed, making breakfast with her and doing all the regular stuff a loving boyfriend will do, all against his nature and wishes. But is it not exciting to let your man touch you and make love to you, or as he said ‘f*** you’ in a different and innovative way every single night. Frankly speaking it gives me chills.
So please all the readers and haters who felt that the book was a derogatory comment on woman and her sexuality, please read it again and mark all those references where Grey showed care, where he went to every extreme to guarantee Ana’s security and make her a part of his own identity as an EQUAL and not submissive.